In order to understand we need to listen more – instead of pondering our own reply whilst pretending to listen. Understanding what is said or spoken by someone is what is truly important. This is where the confusion comes in – people disagreeing on things they did not hear (understand) correctly.
We must listen to the Word of GOD in order to understand. Before we reply, it is our responsibility to make sure that we have heard correctly.
Let’s look at an example where Jesus Christ was also misunderstood, and the consequence thereof:
Then Jesus said to them, "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you have no life in you. Whoever eats My flesh and drinks My blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. For My flesh is food indeed, and My blood is drink indeed. He who eats My flesh and drinks My blood abides in Me, and I in him. As the living Father sent Me, and I live because of the Father, so he who feeds on Me will live because of Me. This is the bread which came down from heaven--not as your fathers ate the manna, and are dead. He who eats this bread will live forever." These things He said in the synagogue as He taught in Capernaum. Therefore many of His disciples, when they heard this, said, "This is a hard saying; who can understand it?" (John 6:53-60 NKJV).
Please note the reply of the disciples (“who can understand this”?) and then look at the response of Jesus Christ:
When Jesus knew in Himself that His disciples complained about this, He said to them, "Does this offend you? What then if you should see the Son of Man ascend where He was before? It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life. But there are some of you who do not believe." For Jesus knew from the beginning who they were who did not believe, and who would betray Him (John 6:61-64).
We need to ask ourselves daily: do I disagree because I do not understand, or because of unbelief? Look at the consequence:
And He said, "Therefore I have said to you that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted to him by My Father." From that time many of His disciples went back and walked with Him no more (John 6:65-66).
Do not be the one that turns away from the LORD because of your own unbelief and lack of understanding.
For whoever has, to him more will be given, and he will have abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him (Matt 13:12). This is what Jesus Christ spoke regarding the word of the kingdom: if you believe and understand, you will understand more and more. It is your responsibility to ask when you do not understand.
Incline your ear, and come to Me. Hear, and your soul shall live; And I will make an everlasting covenant with you-- The sure mercies of David (Isa 55:3).